Yesterday, I wrote about being emotionally stifled. In many ways, suppressing your emotions can seem to help limit the pain that you go through when things fall apart. This belief is a lie. What does occur when you don’t invest emotionally? You keep yourself from living fully, and you damage yourself in the process. I am aware of the stages of grief, but nowhere is there a step that says to live in the past. You try, if it works out great. If it doesn’t, you should move on with your life. Of course, if you are anything like me, you make another bad decision and you hang on to what used to be.
My pastor preached yesterday, and his Scriptural reference was Ezekiel 37. In this passage of Scripture, God takes Ezekiel to a valley full of dry bones. In his message, my pastor made the statement that people like to hold on to what they once had or has been situations. It struck me right in the heart when he said this. I also attended the Southern Christian Writers Conference in Tuscaloosa, Alabama over the weekend. During the conference, I attended a workshop by a renowned author, and she made a similar comment. In her example, she had written a story about a wife that had a situation arise, and she refused to forgive her husband (I know, another mushy love story). A seed of bitterness fell to the ground and took root in her heart. Both examples serve as a warning that we should expeditiously let go of the pain of the past. We experience dry places at times in our life. Our journey is complicated when we refuse to let go and move forward. Progression starts with a single step.
The difference between a winner and a loser, is this: The winner makes a choice to get up when they get knocked down. Life is not nice to us sometimes. There once was a saying that went like this: Grin and bear it. In the military we tend to use profanity to drive home our points. Some individuals say swearing shows a lack of intelligence. General Patton disagreed with that point. He claimed that if you want people to remember anything, you should use the most vulgar language to assist them in their remembrance. Of course, this was strictly his opinion. In the Army we would tell our soldiers to embrace the suck or to suck it up. Life often plays fast and loose with the rules; therefore, it makes sense that we should embrace the bad times, enjoy the good, and keep hope for a brighter future.
God bless each of you.