It is almost 4 A.M. as I start to write this blog. I have been up since midnight. Three hours of sleep has been all that I have gotten tonight. It seems like it might be a long day. My mind has been racing too and fro with different topics, but I have decided that I will write about love.
Love is a feeling of affection, but it is deeper than that. This feeling of affection affects the brain. Neuroscientists divide love into three categories: lust, attraction and attachment. In the lust phase, the body releases hormones. Adrenaline and norepinephrine makes the heart race and the palms sweat, while the brain releases dopamine and develops a sense of euphoria. Being “in love” increases blood flow to the brain’s pleasure center (the nucleus accumbens) and it lights up and can be seen on a MRI. This increase in blood generally happens during the attraction phase. Love also lowers the serotonin levels which is a common attribute of OCD. It explains the single minded focus that is often given to the person that they love. This attribute also explains why we often fail to recognize the negative traits of our partners at the beginning of the relationship. If you are lucky enough to make it to the attachment phase, the body builds up a tolerance to the chemicals that bring pleasure. Oxytocin and vassopressin flood the brain and it brings a sense of security and well-being.
I suppose one could say that love is all in the mind. The Bible has plenty to say about love as well. Proverbs 10:12 reads, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.” If we seek to define true love, one needs to look any further than Jesus dying on the cross for the sins of the entire world. This is the greatest expression of love.
Being in love is pleasurable, but it is not without its troubles. There are many other aspects of love that must be in place for it to be successful. One must be willing to fight to keep love alive in a marriage or a relationship. Staying enchanted with your partner is a full time job (yes, I am aware that this makes it sound tedious). You must be willing to communicate with each other. This includes your dreams, desires, and needs. A shared vision must be communicated and then executed. When things get off-track you must be able to work to get it back on-track. Shutting down emotionally, and shutting off the avenues of communication is a good way to find yourself alone. According to the Scriptures, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.” Another Scripture states that love is patient and kind. Given this formula from the Scriptures, we should all be successful at this endeavor.
That is going to do it for this blog. I am going to try to rest, y’all have a great day.