As of today, I have reached my limit with hollow vocal expression. I am at my limit, and I doubt that I could stomach one more pile of worthless, vocal excrement. It seems to me that people are so fake, they have no idea that they are being fake. I have always been this way! If you insist on being that deluded I will simply walk away. People always seem to want to say hollow idioms, and expressions to save the feelings of the other party.
No. You don’t have the guts to be real is the problem. While serving in the military I was privy to seeing many marriages/relationships/friendships fall apart. It was not something that I enjoyed seeing occur. However, a large percentage of their problems started and ended with hollow speech. Wife X had a problem with Husband Y (or vice versa). Instead of being upfront and honest about what was bothering them, they would toss out a hollow “I love you” and then skip on down the road to their neighbors’ house for some R&R.
Friends are no different at times. They insist on not hurting the other friend’s feelings. “It will be painful. I don’t want to hurt them by telling them the truth.” So, you are okay with them living a lie. This leads the other friend to believe some deluded version of the truth and thinking that everything is ok. Discovering the truth at a later time is every bit as painful as finding out about it right now.
In the military we would often tell our lower enlisted that we were not a superhero named Captain Save-A-Ho. I don’t understand why we insist on sugarcoating the truth. If I was married and my wife was screwing around, I would not want someone to tell me she was passing out tracts to our church. It is never good to be comforted with a lie. The truth is painful at times, but I value the truth. It is much easier to respect a person who is upfront with you. People who sugarcoat the truth and lie to “protect” your feelings have zero respect for you.
Dating is another example of hollow locution. Two people really like each other, and decide to see where it will go. As time marches on, one or both individuals decide that they don’t feel like continuing the journey. Instead of making a clean break they utter those dreadful words: It’s not you, it’s me. Let’s remain friends, I want you to be a part of my life. Um, how about no. Or they insist on continuing knowing full well that they have zero feelings for you. “I don’t want to lose them!” At some point the wheels came off of the wagon. I have always been the guy that makes a clean break. Once it is over, I don’t go back. Going back to see if there is a spark is also not going to happen. Trying again is not going to happen. It’s over.
It seems that my jaded nature is showing up in this blog. It is my dislike of hollow soundbites that is coming through. People insist on being nice when they speak, even if it is going to lead to heartache and pain later on. Leading people on is wrong. Lying to protect someone’s feelings is wrong. Be upfront in your dealings with individuals. Tell the truth and let the chips fall where they will. If you take a dump on the lawn and pour sugar and sprinkles on it, it doesn’t transform into a donut. It is sugarcoated crap.
Well, I am glad I got that out of my system. Thanks for letting me rant like a madman today. You guys take care and I will chat with you all soon.