Am I nuts? After the last blog that I wrote, I said I was done for the day. However, I am scratching my head and wondering if I have not taken a long fall off of a short but very high bridge. My mental acuity may be failing me. It seems to me that people spend a lot of time discouraging others from making an effort to be in their lives or just seeking a deeper understanding of them. Often times this is done to avoid being hurt. At the end of the day, what you accomplish is ensuring that these people walk out of your life. I can draw from my own well of personal experience in this regard. When I retired and got divorced, I tried to balance a couple of personal relationships with disastrous results. Since the results were poor, I decided that it was time for me to become a hermit. For seven years it was me versus the world. There was one lesson that I learned and it was this: You can’t treat people like crap and expect them to be there when you need something.
To illustrate this point, I have a friend that is four up and four down (ate up). We will call him X. This guy will be friendly to you as long as he needs something. Then when he has used you to fulfill whatever he is attempting, he discards you like last week’s garbage. Then he wonders where everyone went. People will not stick around if you constantly use them as tools.
I had a supervisor when I was a dock hand at a dairy tell me one time, “I love it when people take advantage of my good nature. One day they will need something and they will have to come to me to get it.” This stayed with me. There is truth in this statement. You may run roughshod over me today, but one day life will complete the circle and bring you right back to the person you messed over.
While I don’t necessarily agree with my supervisor’s mentality (God rest his soul) there is no denying that life has a way of breaking us. The Golden Rule commands us to treat others the way that we want to be treated. Words and actions must match up otherwise, it is empty words. You can’t profess your undying love for someone and then violently shove them out of your life. Abusing people’s trust is a no-go.
People wonder why their lives are such a mess. Generally, you can trace it back to how they have treated people in the past. I know, speaking from my personal experience that I have dealt poorly with people in the past. I have paid for my actions in the past and in the present. Everyone pays for their actions. Whether we meant to cause harm or not, our chickens will come home to roost.
When the chickens come home to roost, it is too late to correct the issue. The downside of abusing people’s trust and friendship is that you often end up alone. No one wants to be around people who screw over others. The adage goes something like this: Birds of a feather flock together. No one wants a reputation of abusing people to get ahead. It seems that this simple lesson is often the most difficult to grasp. In the end, you must make the decision of how to treat the people who are in your life.
That will do it for this blog. You guys take care and I will chat with you later.