Today has been one of those days. I woke up not wanting to answer my phone or deal with any issues. I am retired, so I can make that choice. My thoughts have been scattered for some reason today (I am sure frustration had some part to play in it). However, my temporarily bad day made me start to think about choice.
Every day when we wake up we start with a choice. Do I get out of bed or just lie here? Then the day starts to unfold via the choices that we make. Do I eat breakfast? How late am I? Do I risk speeding? Choices, whether we want them to be or not, is part of our lives.
The interesting thing about choices is that it effects your life. Granted, some of your choices may impact others, but no one has any say in what you choose. At the end of the day, you decided on what to do. When I was a soldier, I always hated to hear those infamous words: I didn’t have a choice. The only people that don’t have a choice are the dead. Claiming that we don’t have a choice is an excuse (and not a very good one).
There is always a choice. We make choices based on expected outcomes. In the supermarket we may avoid someone, because we know that they like to gossip. We choose not to interact with them. Making a choice does not free us from the consequences of our choices. If I decide to punch someone out, I had better be prepared to deal with the consequences of my actions.
Yet, so many people struggle with making choices. This morning, I decided to turn off of my phone. I did this to avoid interacting with people. If I had missed an important phone call, then I would pay the consequences. When we avoid making decisions about our lives, we still made a choice. Our lives will still be impacted whether we participate in choosing or not. The only way to get over the fear of making a choice, is to make choices. No one makes the right choice every time. It is through failure that we perfect making choices that shape our lives.
It is important to understand that sitting on the sidelines is not optional. Every one of us are in this game called life. There are no by-standers. If things do not work out when you make a choice, then dust yourself off and try again. Life is too long to be miserable. Handing the reins to someone else and letting them make choices for your life is a dumb move. You should never give power to someone to shape your life. God gave you a brain, you should use it to make informed decisions about your life.
I am going to get off of my soapbox now. Take care and I will chat with you all soon.